Stop bossing, start coaching
Consider making a mental shift—from your kids’ manager to their coach. As a manager, you tend to nag your kids to get things done because you feel responsible for the outcome. As a coach, you instead act as a caring outsider providing guidance and support. Empower your kids with facts and then step back and allow them to make choices—good or bad—for themselves. It is certainly liberating for everyone and builds the kids’ self-confidence for the rest of their lives.