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A Parent’s Role in Enhancing Kids’ Self-Esteem


Self Esteem in ChildrenThis blog post has been contributed by Sagarika Sadhukhan

Parents” the word itself is so emotional and expressive. For a mother, God has given us the boon to feel a child all from inside and of course, after birth, with all our emotions and sentiments it is our primary and wholesome duty to thank God by helping these masses of energy, our children grow up and be responsible citizens of the country.

I am into a profession that actually deals with expressions, well I’m a script writer, and my profession has made me get acquainted with many people, from different walks of life. A lot of talking and sharing made me realize that parents of today feel that children are more smarter to take up hard work as they have to compete, and in turn from a very tender age they start over burdening the kids with not studies,which normally they can cope up with but the various co-curricular activities. When we were small we knew this was one field which grew out of love of it but at present the concept has been given an absolute different definition… which is hardly helping the tender growing mind. They are not getting the space to grow.

Besides a script writer I at times groom the little ones in the summer camps and I have seen the potential they have in them. Freedom has always helped them give out the best. Motivation and encouragement has always made children grow free and not by pushing them to the crucial world of competition but by making them aware and gradually love the extra which we want them to learn.

We are encircled with numerous diamonds and stars, all in its own natural form the only vital responsibility of the manufacturers are to carefully work on it! Polish them such that they are no less than the precious Kohinoor and be the sun’s powerful light source; so that we see a galaxy of reflecting stars, twinkle. The more burden the more anxiety which in turn demoralize these kids resulting in a very poor self esteem. Healthy self-esteem is a child’s armor against the challenges of the world. Kids who feel good about themselves seem to have an easier time handling conflicts and resisting negative pressures. They tend to smile more readily and enjoy life. These kids are realistic and generally optimistic. In contrast, kids with low self-esteem can find challenges to be sources of major anxiety and frustration. Those who think poorly of themselves have a hard time finding solutions to problems. If given to self-critical thoughts such as “I’m no good” or “I can’t do anything right,” they may become passive, withdrawn, or depressed. Faced with a new challenge, their immediate response is “I can’t.”

Here’s how you can play important role in promoting healthy self-esteem in your child.

What Is Self-Esteem? Self-esteem can be defined as feelings of capability combined with feelings of being loved. A child who is happy with an achievement but does not feel loved may eventually experience low self-esteem. Likewise, a child who feels loved but is hesitant about his or her own abilities can also end up with low self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem comes when the right balance is reached.

How can a parent help to foster healthy self-esteem in a child? These tips can make a big difference:

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ParentEdge is a bi-monthly magazine for discerning Indian parents who would like to actively contribute to their children’s education, intellectual enrichment and stimulation. The magazine’s premise is that learning is a continuous process, and needs to happen both in and outside of school; thus parents have an important role to play in shaping their children’s interests and intellect.


7 thoughts on “A Parent’s Role in Enhancing Kids’ Self-Esteem

  1. Aparajita Bose

    It’s never too late to start, they say. We might have copied certain things from our parents which creep in during our interactions with our children, some of which could be right then, but wrong in today’s scenario (parent-child relation has undergone a sea change!). Sagarika, your article reminds me where I go wrong sometimes (thinking my Mom did this, so it’s right, so I too shall do it) and hope to catch myself right in time more often! Thank you!

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    1. Sagarika Sadhukhan

      Hi! Aparajita its wonderful to read your reactions but I must say one thing that no matter how smart or how fast a child is we as parents must not pressurize them instead encourage them to grow a spontaneous interest so that they love to do whatever they are doing. just make them feel we are there for them.

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      1. Aparajita Bose

        Dear Sagarika, Your reply reminds me of something my son’s Standard 1 class teacher had said in a PTM years back – Let the child first do something where his heart lies, that will easily be followed by what the parents would like the child to do!

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