Bringing up children can be very rewarding and enjoyable but it can also be stressful and frustrating. Most of us feel wound up and lose our temper, which we regret later. But the point is for us to realize that children will readily absorb the emotional climate around them; if we are frustrated, they will be too. I’ve learned so many lessons on this topic in the last two years. I hope to pass a few tips to fellow parents for staying calm and cool.
Also Read: Helping Children Manage Their Emotions
Be in the present moment. Turn off all the electronic entertainment gadgets that you have at home and connect with your child. Try hanging a tag that reads “Here, now”, “Be in the present moment!”. Please be aware that the present moment is the best gift that you can offer to your child.
Simplify. Over-scheduling your day with multiple activities may lead to frustration as the day progresses. Look at what you can undo during that day. Plan your week’s chores well ahead and be kind to yourself as you put down the to-do list. Be childlike, really listen to your kids, and focus your attention on what you’re doing together.
Foster your non-mom identity. Once we became mothers we have forgotten ourselves! Try and ignore the voice in your head about what constitutes a perfect mother, and just be you. Make time to reconnect with what you loved to do before children and don’t feel guilty about it! Get some books for your choice, drive to the beach, have a sip of coffee and treat yourself.
Energize yourself. Choose the things that you love and that make you happy and do them every day.
Exercise. Kick start your day with a brisk early morning walk. This is going to keep you refreshed all through the day.
Eat. There have been many times when I’ve been starving and not taking care of myself. Stop and make sure you’re not feeling the result of low blood sugar.
A good night’s sleep. Get a sound sleep and don’t ever try and compromise on that. This is the time where your physical and mental health is put to rest and prepares itself for the next busy day in your life.
Get up early. The preciously early morning time. Make this your ME Time. This is the best opportunity for you to be with yourself and feel your inner self. Feel the freshness in that ice cold water, breathe the freshness in the air. Place your foot on the floor and feel the ground. And you will feel connected with your inner self.