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Change is good!

Kids getting used to accept change
We are shifting houses this weekend, and with all the packing, moving, cleaning, et al – my kids are sometimes troubled.

  • Will you pack all my toys?
  • Will we have TV in the new house?
  • Don’t forget Teddy!
  • Will we have beds to sleep in? … the list is endless

Amidst all the boxes, half-packed suitcases, we are still muddling through our daily routine of school, office and classes.

Of course, there are glitches. Yesterday, I simply couldn’t find the frying pan and my son had to make do with idlis instead of utappams. And, of course, there is always the last minute scurry for the hat and belt which I had packed inside one of the suitcases. Not to forget having to spend half an hour hunting for the karate gloves which mysteriously wound up packed between 2 stuffed dolls. The children have, of course, not been too pleased with all these adjustments they are having to make.

My daughter, for one, is Sheldon-esque (of The Big Bang Theory fame) when it comes to her stuff. She even refused to climb into her school van because the driver had changed! It goes unsaid that she doesn’t want me to throw away her one-eyed doll, or her tattered penguin as I clean up for the move. That set me thinking – “Change is good!”

It is very important for us not to bring up children so that they are so used to routines and rules, that they are unable to accomodate changes which come their way. It is good to have to run to catch the school bus at the last minute once in a while because you couldn’t find your ID card; it is good to have to eat from paper plates sitting on boxes because your furniture is stuck with the moving van; it is good to have to wear the same dress you wore the day before because all other dresses are packed; it is good to eat bread-butter-jam for breakfast and lunch because the gas cylinder is not fixed yet; it is good to make the child read the same library book twice because you couldn’t go to the library with a headache…

As parents try to do their best every day to ensure that their child’s day is perfect, think about how you can sometimes go overboard with your efforts at the risk of making your child too rigid and incapable of adjusting. Remember, change is good! Do you agree?

Also Read : Teaching your Child to Forgive


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Like most mothers she knows, Ramya juggles between finding something that satisfies her inner self and doing something that satisfies her family! Mother of two children, a boy and a girl, her parenting philosophy is not so much to be a popular, cool parent as to bring them up with values that she holds dear. When not donning her 'amma' hat, she switches between being 'manager of Digital Learning at IIMB', 'payer of bills', 'cook', 'cleaner' and 'reader of PG Wodehouse and Georgette Heyer.'

5 thoughts on “Change is good!

  1. Gayatri

    Yes, change is good! Especially once you can catch your breath and finish dealing with the chaos that change sometimes brings in its immediate wake…..

    1. ramyas Post author

      Hey Harini – glad you found time to read :) Am shifting back to my old flat within the same apartment complex (albeit a smaller one) ‘coz rents are shooting upwards. Stay in touch.

  2. Kritika

    I totally agree Ramya. Though we find comfort in schedules, timings and plans (and also hope to avoid illness and crankiness), I guess children also need to go with the flow – adapt when they need to and learn to adjust. This is such an important skill for adults as well – adaptability. Having said that, children do find comfort in regularity and routine, and look to us to set boundaries and rules, so, as in anything else, we need to find a good balance between the two!


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