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I got the above inputs from four youngsters, just out of their teens. Conforming to the above would require a paradigm shift in values and attitudes resulting in marked changes in behavior. If teenage is a confusing time for kids, it can be equally difficult for parents to accept the drastic changes in their kids’ personality. Parents need to understand the pressure teenagers have to handle and the isolation/marginalization they are likely to face from their peer group if they do not conform. Teenagers feel the need to adopt a certain style of dressing and speaking, and take an interest in the same activities that their friends indulge in, in order to belong to their chosen group. Teenagers need guidance and support during this difficult period and a parent-teen relationship that is based on trust, and is open, caring, friendly and affectionate is a prerequisite for this. Keeping communication lines open, giving lots of personal space and privacy, and knowing which issues to ignore would go a long way in ensuring a cordial relationship with your teen. To repeat, choose your battles wisely, and don’t sweat the small stuff!


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S A Sudha is a content writer/editor and helps create marketing collateral for clients from different verticals. Sharing her varied and, at times, volatile parenting experiences, and reading about the parenting adventures of other parents has helped her to look at issues from a different perspective, and gain valuable insights on how to connect with teens. While not arguing with her teen, she loves to read, listen to music and watch Hindi movies.


  1. Sudha Kumar

    Great post Sudha, your ability to empathize stands out. Yes I am completely with you- I have seen the transition of my son, niece and daughter, and yes, we should not be judgmental and jump to conclusions; rather try and see issues from their view point as well. Keep them coming!

    1. Sudha Arun

      Yes, I agree that its very important to remain unbiased while dealing with teenagers as this would allow them to open up to their parents when they are in trouble rather than bottling it up or seeking advice from others….

  2. Ramya Srinivasan

    Nicely articulated, Sudha. While not a parent of a teenager, this list does bring back to mind the kind of peer pressure I went through as a “nerd!” With changing times and children becoming much more aware and knowledgeable today, it is a tough ask not to buckle under this kind of pressure.

    Having said that, I think the experience, stressing as it is, will prepare them to face the future academic and corporate world that they will get into in a few years’ time.


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