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Dealing with Online Child Pornography


Online child pornography

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An embarrassing but harsh reality!

Online pornography is porn especially made for children. Yes, there are sites which cater to all those who are curious to know about how our body works, but not in an appropriate manner. These are not things that a child needs to be taught in a sophisticated manner, rather they are grossly showcased. Easy internet access and adeptness at using the computer from an early age are few of the reasons that children these days are more curious than we have been at our age. One does have to put in search words like ‘child porn’; they are taken to the sites that show mock sexual violence and that are sexually explicit.

So as a parent, how do we handle this situation? Especially the parents of young boys who are curious to know about not only their bodies, but also about women bodies! Here are few steps that ensure that you can keep your children safe from online exposure to pornography.

Keep the gates of conversation with your children always open

Talking and listening – the two important aspects of conversation are the most important pre-requisites in raising children – be it pre-schoolers, tweens, and teens. So always keep the channels of conversation open. Set aside a time everyday where just you and your children talk to each other without the distraction of any mobile, TV, food or anything that may allow you or them to change the topic. Yes, it is embarrassing but I think it is better to be embarrassed than being ashamed if something untoward happened.

Also Read: Online Safety for Children

Trust them, educate them; don’t teach or preach

More often than not, we don’t trust our children and when we come across anything suspicious from their side we tend to get into the mode of teaching or preaching to them. Remember that the child who is searching for child porn is not a four-year-old kid who will take kindly to your scolding or preaching. So remember to trust them and broach the topic when they are most comfortable, like during bed time. And even then educate them about the dangers lurking in the dark corners of child porn and assure them that you are there for them if they want to know anything about their body.

Never dismiss them

It is so natural for us to dismiss our kids when they want to talk to us because we are busy or irritated, or had a hard day at work. But never do that, for the simple reason that if you don’t answer their questions they will definitely look up the Internet and then you never know what they might stumble upon. So reduce the risk and listen to them however busy you are—just spare five minutes to them and listen with all your heart.

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Swati Nitin Gupta is a journalist with extensive experience in writing for newspapers, tabloids, magazines and online media in India as well as Middle East. She has written on a range of topics, from human interest stories to event coverage to features on topics like fashion, beauty, women, children, travel and general health issues. As an Indian Army officer's daughter, Swati has been been exposed to the various cultures and lifestyles of different states of the country – knowledge of which she tries to incorporate in her writing. Swati also maintains her personal blogs at swatisays.wordpress.com and swati1012.wordpress.com.


2 thoughts on “Dealing with Online Child Pornography

  1. Kritika Srinivasan

    I think we need to take a holistic approach to online safety in general. Exposure to pornography or inappropriate content is just one aspect of it, and more often than not, there are enough apps / safeguards against this kind of exposure – like Safe Searches, child-friendly browsers, or even the eKavach app that we have been talking about. And let’s face it – children of a certain age will access inappropriate material if they really want – they did it long before computers were easily available. Of course, I admit that the Internet makes it easier.

    But more worrisome is the safety of the child itself in the virtual world. Cyber bullying, online predators, identity threat – these are threats that are dangerous and can impact a child emotionally, psychologically and physically.

    We have had blogs written on online safety before – do check those out. And the Cover Story of ParentEdge November 2014 issue was on online safety.

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