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Disability: It’s all in the Mind

I decided that I would go ahead with her surgery and that too as soon as possible. All the doctors that I had met or the family we visited were not going to define my daughter’s worth. If no two typical children were alike then why was I comparing one special needs child to the other? I felt guilt leaving my body and a new ray of hope coming over me. I had made up my mind and I decided that from now on, I would not depend on what others said about my daughter.

Her surgery took place soon. It went well and in about a month, we were back with a healthy heart and a changed mom.

Today my daughter is seven. She goes to a mainstream school. She has performed on the stage several times. She loves sports and painting. Her teacher says she is ahead of few of her ‘typical’ peers in reading and that every teacher in the school loves her. At home, she is a cracker who runs around like a live wire, spreading laughter and happiness. I thank my stars that I took the right decision at the right time and I hope many will do the same.

I was wrong to trust people who did not know much or those who treated disability as a tragedy. My suggestion to all readers is to tell anybody who is going through such a phase to have faith in themselves and their children, because faith and trust in our children can change their and our lives.

Thanks for reading.


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10 thoughts on “Disability: It’s all in the Mind

  1. Ignatius Fernandez

    Deepa, thank you for sharing an eye-opening experience with us. I salute your courage and faith. As parents you did not give up, despite predictions to the contrary. Your story will certainly inspire others with similar problems. God bless you and your family.

  2. sonika

    Depa it is really very inspiring. We have normal kids but one way or the other they r also special need children. Everybody needs love, care and attention only the difference is down syndrome child needs more love care and attention but in return they give us the same.

  3. Rashmi kohli

    I m really proud of you who is able to convince your feeling and educating people for taking right decision at right time. Loved your article. I wish both of you and your daughter a wonderful and successful life ahead.All the best.

  4. Rachna Gupta

    Deepa, this story is really painful n realistic too.its very easy to read it n say”’ I can understand n feel the pain but it’s not true. This pain can be felt by the person who go through it. It’s very difficult to show that on papers but u did it very well. That was the time when one have to be calm n cool so as to take right decision but being a mother its very difficult. But you proved it very bravely. I really appreciate you for your right decision at right time. Its a lesson for us too.

  5. Ramya

    Hats off to your courage Deepa, for standing up for your child at the right time, and for candidly sharing your difficult moments.

    This is an inspiration for all parents

  6. Swati

    Truly an inspiring story in more than one ways! In a society where normal girl child is considered as a burden you and your husband are raising a special needs girl! So proud of you Deepa! All the best for her future endeavours!

  7. Richa

    Most of our beliefs are generalisations about our past, based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences. The moment we begin to honestly question our beliefs and the experiences, we open the door to replacing our old, disempowering beliefs with new beliefs. I am so glad Deepa, you changed your beliefs because that itself will empower you to accomplish virtually anything, including those things other people are certain are impossible. All the best !

  8. Subir Roy

    I salute you and your family for your courageous decision. She will make you proud one day. Only a few days back i met your husband and found him to be a strong man of courage with a golden heart. My best wishes are with.


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