This post has been contributed by Srinivasan T.
The other day I sat down to list the day to day activities of typical grand parents. Topping the list was of course the “ idiot box- “couch potato syndrome” but not far behind was their “Mandai Uruttal” ceremonies ( Head rolling is the literal translation of this Tamil term but means – gossip !!). The latter invariably will centre around the present-day 30+ moms and dads and how parents these days ‘spoil the kids’, ‘don’t have time’, ‘spend too much money’, et al. (Yours truly does not claim to be an exception to this routine!) In fact the rare occasions when the normal half and the better half agree whole heartedly is when they start conducting a post-mortem on the way the modern day parent is bringing up the child.
Of course fodder for these “Mandai Uruttals” is provided in abundance by the younger generation in the form of the new age expenditure patterns, children upbringing style, view on life’s priorities – to name just a few from an apparently endless list. While I may be one to indulge in such gossip sessions, I must admit that sometimes when I see working mothers juggling their routines, or young fathers using their full-fledged creativity with their child’s school projects – I stand up and say “Hats off to you !”.
On saner thoughts ( I strongly believe that we senior citizens are still capable of this process ), I feel that these pastimes need a complete overhaul and that grand parents can play a much more vital role – take your grand child to nearby temples and parks to cater to mental and physical needs; libraries and internet sessions with the younger generation can whet your intellectual appetite. Playing with children (whether your grand children or those from the neighborhood) whenever possible can provide the most exhilarating emotional experience to both parties as well (this one is from experience – the most recent one being coming first in an impromptu running race ). These activities will not only enrich the young innocent lives, but will also give yours, as a grand parent, a whole new dimension. I am a grandparent who is game for a change. Are you?
Also Read : The “Grand” ParentEdge !