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Letters to my Daughter: Be the Queen of your Kingdom. Not the Wife of your King!


Zeffirra HuseinZeffirra Husein works with a private equity firm, is married to a workaholic surgeon and is a mother to a beautiful girl. Her days are crazy, juggling between work, home, her darling daughter, family and friends. Zeffirra believes in not dwelling on the past and not worrying about the future. Instead, she focuses on her present which is truly a ‘present’ from above. Zeffirra created an email ID for her daughter on the latter’s birth and has been writing regularly to her about their lives and about the things she wants her daughter to know about. In her blogs for ParentEdge, Zeffirra will share her ‘present’ in the form of her letters to her daughter. Zeffirra’s personal blog can be accessed at http://iheartmypresent.blogspot.in/

When I was in my early teens I knew this beautiful lady who was once happily married, had a loving husband, two beautiful kids, house of her own, etc. etc. She had a life that most women ‘then’ would envy. (I say ‘then’ as the mindsets of most women have changed in the past decade and half.). Then one day I heard that her husband passed away at 32 years of age of a heart attack. It came as a shock to me and I can only imagine what she and her family would have gone through. After a few years I bumped into her and just by looking at her I could tell that her life was not so enviable any more. She was remarried but this time it was not to seek love but to help her support herself and her kids financially. This chance meeting with her and her changed appearance will stay forever in my mind. That experience I had many years ago has led me to believe that every woman should be self-reliant and hence this letter to Zayb. I have published this letter on my personal blog earlier this month as well.

Zayb,

I once read this quote by Lara Turner, ‘ A successful man is one who makes a lot of money, and a successful woman is one who can find such a man’.  Though very funny (and I am sure she was just trying to be funny when she said this) I thought of this as absolute ‘bovine manure’. Your ambition and identity should be based on who you are and what you want to be. Not on what your partner is or can be. Be the Queen of your Kingdom not the wife of your King. You don’t want to be at the mercy of another for your own identity. The wife of the King remains Queen till he wants her to be. She enjoys her status and luxuries as Queen till he allows her to enjoy it. Or till he is able to provide it.

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Zeffirra works with a private equity firm, is married to a workaholic surgeon and is a mother to a beautiful girl. Her days are crazy, juggling between work, home, her darling daughter, family and friends. Zeffirra believes in not dwelling on the past and not worrying about the future. Instead, she focuses on the present which is truly a ‘present’ from above. Zeffirra created an email ID for her daughter on the latter's birth, and has been writing regularly to her about their lives and about the things she wants her daughter to know about. Read Zeffirra's blogs, in which she shares her ‘present’ in the form of letters to her daughter. Zeffirra's personal blog can be accessed on http://iheartmypresent.blogspot.in


3 thoughts on “Letters to my Daughter: Be the Queen of your Kingdom. Not the Wife of your King!

  1. Kritika Srinivasan

    Thank you Zeffirra for this lovely blog – and what an innovative idea to write letters to your daughter. She will learn so much by just reading her emails when she is old enough, and have a record of herself and her parents as she was growing up. I look forward to reading more of your letters to her – we can all learn something from them! Welcome to ParentEdge!

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  2. Sudha Kumar

    Great idea and such ‘real’ content Zeffirra. I can imagine how delighted your daughter will be as she gets to read them. You have touched on a very important issue in this blog. As mothers, we have an important role in building self esteem in our girls both by leading by example and by sharing experiences. You seem to have cracked it! Way to go……….

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