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Managing parental anger

Becoming aware of this cost of our anger, might make some of us think twice the next time we lose it!

The ‘Boss of Your Anger’: The third step is dealing with your angry feelings. Here are some anger management tips:

  • You can start an ‘anger log’ to document all the times you felt you were going to lose or did lose your temper. How did you feel just before that? Recognize your body signals. This way the next time your anger is building up, you can act before it gets out of control. Also if you recognize that you fall prey to anger when you are just back from work, tired or feeling hungry make sure you do something to meet those needs.
  • Now that you have identified your personal triggers and warning signs that tells you that you getting angry, bring up a visual of a ‘Stop Sign’ in your mind. This Stop sign will act as a reminder that you have to stop and break this flow of negative emotions and take a step back.
  • Its crucial as parents that you give yourself ‘me time’, this means that you need to invest in yourself as a person first. Do something that you enjoy and is a stress buster- yoga, swimming, music, gardening, book club, tea with friends…whatever works! Remember a ‘happy and relaxed’ parent is a gift to your child, so do not view ‘me time’ as being selfish!

So, parents, if you are a ‘yeller’ there is help and remember both you and your child deserve better! Bring back the joy to parenting…happy parenting!


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Aparna Samuel Balasundaram is a USA- Licensed Psychotherapist and Parent and Child Expert with 10 years of experience in the USA. She is the Founder of Life Skills Experts and the Life Skills 360¡ System that enables parents and teachers to raise happy, confident and successful children. Visit www.LifeSkillsExperts.com for more information. She is also the Founder of ‘A Flourishing Me’ that offers contemporary Counselling and Life Coaching [www.AFlourishing.me]. Aparna can be contacted at aparna@lifeskillsexperts.com.

4 thoughts on “Managing parental anger

  1. seema

    This is really a good article and I think I should practice this to have good relationship not only with children even with myself also.

  2. Aparna

    Thank you for your comments…parenting is more about the parent and not the child…hence ‘parent’ing and not ‘child’ing!!!

    Hence, disciplining a child too is more about managing parental anger, rather than a child’s anger.

    1. Ujwal

      @Aparna – Nice article… an important aspect in dealing with child… and as rightly said, parents need to practice anger management.. we can’t expect that from the child!

      @Amit – Read the ‘parenting Gyaan’ tips on the link you shared. Very useful and practical tips for the parents to keep the peace of mind and avoid getting angry. Thx!


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