Becoming aware of this cost of our anger, might make some of us think twice the next time we lose it!
The ‘Boss of Your Anger’: The third step is dealing with your angry feelings. Here are some anger management tips:
- You can start an ‘anger log’ to document all the times you felt you were going to lose or did lose your temper. How did you feel just before that? Recognize your body signals. This way the next time your anger is building up, you can act before it gets out of control. Also if you recognize that you fall prey to anger when you are just back from work, tired or feeling hungry make sure you do something to meet those needs.
- Now that you have identified your personal triggers and warning signs that tells you that you getting angry, bring up a visual of a ‘Stop Sign’ in your mind. This Stop sign will act as a reminder that you have to stop and break this flow of negative emotions and take a step back.
- Its crucial as parents that you give yourself ‘me time’, this means that you need to invest in yourself as a person first. Do something that you enjoy and is a stress buster- yoga, swimming, music, gardening, book club, tea with friends…whatever works! Remember a ‘happy and relaxed’ parent is a gift to your child, so do not view ‘me time’ as being selfish!
So, parents, if you are a ‘yeller’ there is help and remember both you and your child deserve better! Bring back the joy to parenting…happy parenting!