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My Mother

Mother and childThis article was written by : Mr. S. Ramakrishnasayee (Principal, DAV-BHEL School, Vellore, TN)

There were times when I wondered how it was possible for her to be as busy as a bee, to think and work round the clock about her children’s and husband’s welfare, to maintain immense patience when things were not working her way in family matters and to fully believe in the dictum that ‘Time is the best healer’.

She was rendered hors de combat for the past five years. But it did not dampen her desire and spirit to ensure that the unity and welfare of the family members were intact and the house was ever maintained spic and span. By sheer designs of fate, I have been forced to live in a bit far off place from her’s. But I made it a point to telephone her once in two or three days and enquired about her well-being. Her intense desire was that I should stay with her for at least 10 days together which, of course, I couldn’t fulfil till her last breath.

She was a staunch devotee of Shirdi Sai Baba. Sai Naam was always on her lips. Her kind words to people around, her helping nature and penchant for ‘Annadhanam’ were really incredible. These qualities in fact endeared her to many of her neighbours and relatives.

On 31st May 2011 around 5.00 PM I telephoned the noble soul to enquire about her health least realising that it would be her last conversation with me. Her incoherent words made me feel nervous and make anxious calls to my brother and sisters about her physical condition. They made frantic efforts to save her life — all in vain. She passed away peacefully at 10.05 P.M.

She is none other than my ever-loveable mother. Death is inescapable and a harsh reality of life. Not without reason is it said “Omnipresent and Omnipotent God cannot be visibly present everywhere. Hence he created Mothers!” These words are a billion times true.

Also Read : A Gift to Mothers: A Life Beyond Motherhood


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Like most mothers she knows, Ramya juggles between finding something that satisfies her inner self and doing something that satisfies her family! Mother of two children, a boy and a girl, her parenting philosophy is not so much to be a popular, cool parent as to bring them up with values that she holds dear. When not donning her 'amma' hat, she switches between being 'manager of Digital Learning at IIMB', 'payer of bills', 'cook', 'cleaner' and 'reader of PG Wodehouse and Georgette Heyer.'

10 thoughts on “My Mother

  1. sagarika sadhukhan


    1. Zairishaver

      my ptaenrs gone, my children lack that perspective as well. So I am mindful. I tell their stories, and my stories, and when Cass asks, Why did she do that? I try to answer from a place

    2. Venkatesh

      WOW What a wnuredfol tribute to your Mom aka me..thank-you for those beautiful words..I am blessed to be your Mother.. You have taught me so much. love J

  2. Mrs. G. S. Prema

    I read about ‘our’ mother.Words cannot describe the loss.Still the article touched my soul.Even though I visited her twice in a year,from Delhi,I couldn’t be with her at the time of her death.Her
    each deed revolves around me and reminds me about her patience systematic work and selfless love.

  3. shivkumar

    The one who is able to live with the mother and take care of her in her old age as she did to us when we were young, is the blessed person. Like Mr.Ramakrishna Sayee there are so many people who are not in a position to live with her but craving for her well being and happiness.

  4. sagarika sadhukhan

    This is how it always is when I finish a poem,
    A great silence overcomes me and I wonder
    why I ever thought to use language.
    The life of every human being is supported by primarily one thing-the Mother’s Womb. Those 9months of protection, love and care and growth give us the entry pass into this amazing unknown world. A mother’s womb is the biggest natural support of life for the entire universe, where every life is taken care of before being born.
    “OF all the relations we make in our Journey of life, till our last breath….
    The relation with our ‘Mother’ is 9months more…..


    The article through lights how strong the love, faith and regards a son has towards his mother. The words reflects the bonding of child mother relation and I cherished reading the article. Hope the modern ‘Mummy’ inculcates such love and faith on their children so that we will see many ‘Ramakrihsnasayee’s ‘ in future.

    When we say ‘Woman’ in terms of gender status naturally ‘MOTHER’ stands first followed by sister, wife…I vaguely remember the song in Tamil move ‘Muthu” acted by Sri. Rajanikath, a song about mother, the line and meaning of the song goes like this ‘, there is no life without mother’s blessing, mother is the world, mother love is unlimited, loved without expecting reward… the lines goes on.. what a composition by the writer and what a message the film director given to the public though the media of cinema…!! informatively only few such movies and songs are created in this present materialist world…I like to narrate a story here between the bonding of mother and his son…A man was boating in the sea in a small boat and all of sudden the tide roused resulting the boat capsizing in the sea. Except the son the mother and wife didn’t know swimming. Son can save one of them and had to take the cruel reality of leaving one in the sea.He thought for a while and decided to save his mother. After reaching house his relatives asked him why did he save his aged mother leaving his young and beautiful wife in the sea. After a silent gap he replied ‘ I can have many wives in my life, but I can’t have another mother in my life’. I am not very sure how many such sons are there now in this materialistic world, because the number of ‘home for aged’ is in increasing.

    My mother is the pillar of our family. She had to take the responsibility of big joint family which she happily and successfully hannlded.Though we stay away from our parents reason owing to profession and livelihood but we take satellite advice and guidance from them on day today basis and make it a point to meet them as and then we and they wish.

  6. RAMJI

    Very True

    It takes my heart still closer to my mother, of course, she is no more.

    After reading this, whoever is lucky to have their mother still alive, will start respect and love her

  7. Aparajita Bose

    Some months back my husband came home after his Saturday evening walk, his face telling me there was something going on in the back of his mind. I didn’t have to ask him, he abruptly began to talk. He had just seen a neighbour, a seemingly super-busy man, steeped in his career all the time, rarely seen in the company of his family of children and wife, taking around his frail, aged mother around our apartment complex in a wheelchair. Just as I felt touched by this simple but rare act of the middle-aged father who had decided to dedicate a week-end evening to his mom alone, I did feel a prick of guilt when I thought how my visiting mom-in-law could have got even more time than she got from my husband had it not been for some week-end trips for things as mundane as groceries etc that took her son away from home for hours.

  8. Mahesh P

    Sir…what an article…mindblowing…a wife may be god’s gift…but MOTHER is a gifted god…no one can substitute her…and your language was extraordinary (as always)…love reading your articles…i m very proud to say that i m your student…this is my first comment in a website…inspired by you sir…


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