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What is Good Parenting?


The ParentEdge editorial team was brainstorming for ideas for the cover story of the First Anniversary Issue.
Several topics were bandied about and then we thought it would be most appropriate to discuss ‘What are the qualities of good parenting?’ Read on to discover the stories and experiences as parents and experts share their perspectives on bringing out the best of children irrespective of circumstances….

The role of a parent – nurture versus nature

parentingDoes a child come into the world pre-wired with certain characteristics that determine what he is going to be, or can parents and the environment influence his thinking and nature, especially during the formative years? As parents, this is something we ponder about a lot and it is the crux of the classic ‘Nurture versus Nature’ debate.

Research in fact shows that while some physical attributes such as hair colour are genetically inherited, drive, attitude and outlook can be shaped possibly by both genes and the environment. The Box on the right gives a partial list of where experts think parents can play a significant role.

Research in fact shows that while some physical attributes such as hair colour are genetically inherited, drive, attitude and outlook can be shaped possibly by both genes and the environment. The Box on the right gives a partial list of where experts think parents can play a significant role.

Conversation between parent and childAlso, you will agree that parenting is a job that we are not likely to retire from. Starting with developing reading habits
in your primary schooler to helping your tween balance academics and co curricular activities to guiding your teen in college choices, it is true that a parent’s journey is never complete.

How times have changed – the impact on parenting

Parenting has existed for as long as mankind has – why, then, is it so much under the scanner in the 21st century? Parents find themselves questioning and analysing their every move to check if it is right for the child. “Am I doing enough for my child to realise her potential? How much is too much? Am I stifling creativity?” Counsellors are inundated with queries, newspapers and magazines routinely carry articles about where parents are going horribly wrong (and some rare instances of what they are going right!). What is so dramatically different about parenting today?

“We have removed fear from the parent-child equation, but we do not know what to substitute it with.’How do I get the child to behave, be responsible, value elders, property and time? How do I inculcate good study habits?’ Today’s parents do not have the wherewithal, the techniques or a methodology to deal with these issues.”– Ramakrishna Reddy Head, Manthan Group of Institutions Hyderabad

Firstly, the family unit itself has changed. While the large joint family with aunts and uncles and cousins residing in the same home had become rare by the 70s, most families interacted frequently with close relatives and often had grandparents staying with, or close to them. The typical nuclear family of India today where children have little or no interaction with the extended family is more recent. Ramakrishna Reddy, Head, Manthan Group of Institutions, Hyderabad, believes that this one development has been mainly responsible for redefining the role of the parent. “Earlier, the father was the bread winner and the mother, the primary care giver. Cousins and grandparents had a role in nurturing the child and exposing him to different things. In today’s nuclear families, parents have to be the friends and guides also.”

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