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Role Reversal

                            Not so recently, my son, who is a first year undergrad student, had come home during his school break, and I showed him something I had written and asked for his feedback. He went through it and gave me a lot of detailed suggestions for improvement, while adding (perhaps to soften the impact) that the content was all there. All the points he put forth were valid ( courtesy a superb writing course he was doing at college) and I immediately agreed to take them into consideration.

childstudent                          This morning, again, he asked me over a chat- do you post your blogs as soon as you write them? I said- sometimes yes and sometimes no, but why do you ask? ” I read your recent one and found a couple of punctuations missing; you know what, it is a good idea to leave what you write for a bit and then go back to it- you will find some mistakes that you can rectify!” I smiled to myself; not so long ago, I was the one giving such sage advice and he was at the receiving end, as he was writing his essays for his college admissions. Lesson learned- kids grow up fast; and before you know it, it is time for a role reversal :) . If parents can accept this as a natural progression in the relationship, then it can actually be quite fun. Do you have any similar experiences to share?


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Sudha Kumar is a marketing professional and runs a marketing services firm, Prayag Consulting. She has made her foray into publishing through ParentEdge. Over the last two decades, she has learnt a thing or two about being a working mom. That said, her views on parenting continue to evolve, as she learns from her experiences, reading, and now, from her children!

2 thoughts on “Role Reversal

  1. pallavi

    Lots of memories came back. Thank you so much.

    Am at a stage when me as a daughter have stepped into few of the roles which were ably carried out by my parents. This slow transition has been very challenging and humbling at the same time.
    Today I find myself standing at a juncture where I have taken over from my parents, while I watch my daughter grow into an individual who can do so many things in a better way showing me a new perspective to life.
    Its such great feeling.

  2. Jaya

    That is an interesting insight. It is hard in such situations not to let the stereo typical parental attitude take over and do a parental comeback. The word ‘Parenting’ has such a one way connotation to it i.e. from the parent to the child. Maybe we should use a new word like Intergenerational Learning – to imply a more reciprocal relationship. Perhaps someone might coin a better word.


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