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Scheduled Parenting


Namrataa is a certified Life Coach and Founder of Life Beyond Motherhood. She specialises in coaching mothers on finding their life balance. She can be reached at namrataa@lifebeyondmotherhood.com . She also blogs at http://worldofmoms.wordpress.com.

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For a parent (read: an adult who spends time executing parental duties), life is a mad rush. Wake up. Rush the child. Rush yourself. Most of us might be able to relate to this and the fact that along with rushing, comes a fair bit of being temperamental. What is the result of such crazy schedules? A parent who feels guilty about not executing expected duties on time and a confused child, left with a question mark about his / her capabilities. Nothing great, for sure.

How does one address this? How do you create more time than that you have available in a day? Nothing is easy. Certainly not parenting. The good news, however, is, that most things can be resolved. Treat this like a typical time management issue. Yes, I would argue that time management is the largest issue plaguing today’s parent. We all have needs and desires and keep juggling with the variable of time available at hand only to find that we are dropping more balls than we are able to keep up. The solution? A schedule. Sounds simplistic. Well, maybe it is. At least some bit of it.

It is surprising how many working parents live by the hour at work and at home, and miss commitment after commitment. Some of us don’t and that’s great. But we can do better. Want to spend more ‘quality time’ with your child? Add it on your calendar –  ‘Take Khushi swimming’. Keep the appointment and work around your ‘work’ to make things happen. They will.

I know there are some of us who couldn’t be caught dead with a schedule. For such people, think about it this way. Your child needs you to have a schedule. Children respond well to a schedule. That does not mean you become a micro-manager and say things like ‘It’s 2:30 pm, stop having food and go and do homework’. Instead, be as flexible as the child might need you to be but do start with a schedule and make the child aware that there is a schedule and he / she is expected to adhere to it.

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After 14 years of working as a Talent Development expert in the Corporate world, Namrataa Arora Singh decided to re-invent her career. A Certified Professional Coach (CPC) from the International Coach Academy (Australia), Namrataa has been coaching women across the globe for the last 6 years. Namrataa specializes in working with mompreneurs, single moms and working moms juggling a full time career with other responsibilities. You can read more of her blogs on http://worldofmoms.wordpress.com.


3 thoughts on “Scheduled Parenting

  1. Kritika Srinivasan

    Interesting post Namrataa. But sometimes I can’t help feeling that much of my parental stress arises froim the fact that I schedule my day so much! While every parent knows that it is healthy to schedule and stick to mealtimes and sleeping routines, etc. I must say that moms who don’t seem to stress too much about schedules seem to be more relaxed. Which makes me wonder if I’m doing something wrong by insisting on routine, boundaries and rules. I know that when scheduling your life you also need to allow for flexibility, and I still wouldn’t change the way I operate, but this was just an observation – that people who don’t operate on schedules may be less efficient, but they definitely seem to be less stressed – more bindaas – than people who do! Because finally, these parents don’t rush their kids or themselves for anything – they just go with the flow and seem satisfied with any and all outcomes!

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  2. Namrataa Arora Singh

    Thanks, Raina!

    Kritika,
    You make a relevant point, which I am sure many parents can relate to. One does have to remember that ultimately, it is important for the child to be raised in a happy environment, for which parents need to be happy. If following a schedule gives people stress, in all likelihood, they avoid following it. Nothing is wrong with that. The only thing that parents in this case need to acknowledge that their children might be able to accomplish far less than many other kids and also grow up to be unstructured and not valuing schedules themselves. Many parents might be ok with that so it works for them. To each, their own :)

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