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Create the Family you Want


Setting Family Goals for 2014!

Heard of the saying, ‘In comes the new and out goes the old’? Well, the same can hold true for your family! In this New Year, what if, out goes the whining, messy room, sloppy homework…and in comes the family fun, kids listening, being responsible and peace at home!!

That would be a dream for many of us, right?! Well, it can come true…okay, atleast most of it can!

So, instead of spending 2014 pushing your kids to finish their food, homework, switch off screens [TV, tablets, and computers] and then rush them to sports practice, music lessons and tuitions… you could create a more meaningful family life for you and your children. But it will require a plan to make it happen. It need not be complicated, but it will require an intentional approach.

So, why are ‘Family Goals’ important?

Creating family goals gives your children a vision of what you want as a family- it creates a common sense of purpose where you all are working together. This enhances family bonding, teaches important life lessons and can make for fun times and life long memories.

These family goals could be short- or long-term, fun or more serious. Examples of family goals are playing together as a family, becoming more physically active, volunteering your time as a family, enjoying nature and the outdoors more, or saving money for a family vacation.

 

So, how do you set Family Goals?

Research has proven that planning and doing a deliberate goal setting exercise is the first step toward achieving a goal. At the same time the idea is not to complicate the process!

To help your family through this process of setting a goal, I am sharing 3 tips for successful goal setting and implementation. At the bottom is a sample that was developed by Life Skills Experts, based on our experience with coaching people and parents in particular.

  • Schedule a family meeting-specifically for the purpose of setting a family goal. If your teens roll their eyes and protest, dish out some tasty snacks to win them over! The idea is to get the whole family involved.
  • Stay focused- just because you have everyone’s attention this is not the time to discuss behaviour problems and homework issues! Parents, please just focus on goal-setting!
  • Dream big, but keep it realistic- to ensure you set a realistic and tangible goal, ask yourselves, “Do we have the resources- in terms of time, ability and energy to accomplish this goal?” The idea being that you want your family to be successful and create a ‘feel good’ factor too, so make sure you choose a goal within reach.

Here is wishing your family a purposeful and meaningful 2014! Happy Parenting!

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Aparna Samuel Balasundaram is a USA- Licensed Psychotherapist and Parent and Child Expert with 10 years of experience in the USA. She is the Founder of Life Skills Experts and the Life Skills 360¡ System that enables parents and teachers to raise happy, confident and successful children. Visit www.LifeSkillsExperts.com for more information. She is also the Founder of ‘A Flourishing Me’ that offers contemporary Counselling and Life Coaching [www.AFlourishing.me]. Aparna can be contacted at aparna@lifeskillsexperts.com.


3 thoughts on “Create the Family you Want

  1. Sudha Kumar

    Great idea Aparna- we never managed to do this as a family when the kids were growing up- what we did try was a common set of values, principles and way of doing things which seems to have worked well ( I am beginning to see the results, now that my children are grown up and one of them is staying by himself.)

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  2. Sunandini

    Thank you Aparna, I have been setting these goals for ourselves ever since my kids were babies. Some worked and some took longer than I expected. These goals are a sure way of making the kids feel part of it all rather than watching their mom on the opposition battling it out every single day.
    I am glad I am on the right path with this one thing
    atleast. Will definitly use the goal sheet to organize myself this year.

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  3. Aparna

    Thank you for your comments Sudha and Sunandini!
    Yes, its about showing them that neither you or they are the enemy here! It’s about teamwork as a family where you share a common set of family values and goals…and through this exercise you prepare them for success in the real world!As Sudha pointed out that once they leave home and are on their own, is when you see the fruits of your labor as a parent!!
    Happy Parenting!!!

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