This blog has been contributed by Bijal Shah. Singapore-based Bijal is the mother of a 5-year-old daughter. She is pursuing a course in Journalism from the British College. Being a SAHM, the question that she dreads the most is “What do you do?”. It’s only five years of motherhood that she realises how trivial this question is, and she has a prepared answer for it!
Here the sun shines and we are ready for the march. And the march never ends. Our unconscious is craving for a 9 to 5 job than running a marathon in our houses. And this is how the dream goes; the alarm triggers at 7.30 a.m. – our children waking up, grinning from ear to ear – kissing them good morning- having breakfast on table with our partner- wearing black stilettos and that sexy black formal outfit- a little makeup- a bag and bunch of files and newspaper and marching with herds on those streets of the commercial centres of our cities. False alarm! Wake up dear ladies. If you are a mother; working or not, this is hardly a fact. Staying at home and devoting ourselves to our child’s needs is more of our own need than our children’s. Following their poop schedule, eating schedule, nap schedule, TV or video game schedule, playtime, extra-curricular classes…the list is endless.
It’s an achievement if our gang is able to set a day and time to meet. Sakshi doesn’t want to meet in the afternoon as it’s her 3-year-old’s nap time. Tanvi can’t meet on Tuesday, Thursday and Friday evenings as her 5-year-old has her enrichment class. Neha thinks she can’t meet ever and her life is at an end as she has twins and her hands are full with either soiled diapers or baby food bowls. It’s like asking the opposite poles to meet at the centre of the axis.
Motherhood is a full-time job and this challenge demands the right attitude, an essence of aesthetics, power glow on your face and a jovial heart. Keeping these qualities intact while raising your children is like, expecting a Mac Donald’s outlet in the deserts of Afghanistan. But nothing is impossible for a mother when she knows that her child will become what you strive to be and exhibit in your own lives. However, research shows that SAHM are more prone to depression than working woman as they lose their sense of identity. So here are some sanity-saving tips for a job that is emotionally gruelling, physically exhausting, tedious and isolating.