When is professional help needed?
As a child’s self-control improves, tantrums should become less common. Most children begin to have fewer tantrums by the time they are three and a half years of age. If your child’s tantrums get worse after the age of four; or, if your child has trouble speaking at an age appropriate level; or, your child causes harm to herself or others,or holds her breath during tantrums to the point of fainting, do share your concerns with your child’s doctor.
The doctor will be able to advise you on further steps, after assessing if there are any physical or psychological issues
contributing to the tantrums. Guidance and counselling will help in controlling the frequency of tantrums. Early intervention can stem future behavioural problems and help raise a well-adjusted child comfortable in social and family milieus.
No matter how effectively we deal with tantrums, there is no way to stop them from happening. Children must pass
through this stage in order to learn how to handle their emotions. However, an alert parent can sometimes anticipate a tantrum and head it off. Last, but not the least, a ready sense of humour can help parents diffuse a few temper tantrums. It works like magic. Try it.
- Meena Sivaraman-She is an early childhood development specialist. She runs Bright Vistas, a chain of corporate
day care centres. With rich experience in the holistic enrichment of children’s intellect during their formative
years, Meena is a firm believer in involved, hands-on parenting.