I listened to my mom’s embarrassed instructions without a peep just as didi had instructed.
Thankfully now the schools do a lot of educating on this topic. There are special classes which explain the whole reproductive system to the children.
However embarrassing, parents should take up the initiative and educate their children. For despite the efforts been made by the schools, nothing compares to the tender understanding a parent can render is such a sensitive topic.
Failing that, the child gropes around in the darkness of no knowledge. Worse still, she can suffer greatly from the misinformation doled out by equally half-baked knowledge of the peer group. Sometimes these lasting impressions on the tender minds affect their adult lives too.
So go out there and make an effort. Be brave and overcome the hesitation. It is undoubtedly uncomfortable. But once you take the plunge, it will help them in making wise choices in life. Also you would notice, this does wonders for your relationship too.
Often we wait till the child hits puberty to explain all. A better move would be to gradually guide the child from when they are eight or nine. Do not ignore queries like how I was born? Often children inquire when they see a pregnant woman. Assuage the child’s inquisitiveness with realistic age appropriate answers. “Darling, the stork dropped you here” type of answer is surely not helping.
Leading by example is always a good practice. So if the child’s first initiation into sexuality comes from the parent’s collection of porn magazines, what is left to say?
Apart from the technical side, there is also the moral side. It is your duty to ingrain the values of your family into your child.
So get set to pick the prickly nettle. And chuck those back issues of Playboy away.